Here’s what you need to know about self-pleasure. First things first. If you’re the owner of a vulva and vagina and you’re ready to dive in to your first masturbation session, or you want to learn how to masturbate better, congratulations. It’s awesome that you’re trying to figure out how…

In my experience — Hell yeah it can! It was 2002, and I had recently left a six year relationship, which at 21 years old, was a long fucking time. And, having not been single since I was 15, I wasn’t interested in even dating. …

Take Your Power Exchange out of the Bedroom and into Your Life Maybe you’re into BDSM. Or maybe you’re not. Maybe you just like the idea of taking your sexual play out of the bedroom and into the rest of your life. Because it’s hot. And erotic. And maybe you’re…

Don’t be mad at me if you wish you’d have been left in the dark. In no particular order, here are four secrets women would probably prefer I not share with you. Once you know them, you may have wished you didn’t know. You’ve been warned. Don’t point the finger…

Follow these 5 tips to get it on have sex that’s hotter than ever — A few years back, I was chatting with a kid, a young man old enough to drink, but young enough for me to call him a kid, and, more than once, he said something along the lines of “I bet you fuck like a porn star.” I rolled my eyes. …

You’re not a professional, stop offering advice. It’s not helping anybody. For the majority of 2020, I was on hiatus from what I like to call “my pleasure writing.” It started when I enrolled in a writing masterclass, which led to me stop my non-professional writing (which, of course, included…

Before I was a writer, I was a DICM (Drug and Alcohol Intensive Case Manager). I worked with people who were addicted and attempted to remove barriers that stood in the way of their recovery. Rarely did I work with a person new to addiction. Most of my adult clients…

Avoid rainbow washing — keep it about Pride, not profit — Oh, Pride Month. The first month of summer when brands replace their social media icons with Pride flags, and retail companies smack rainbows on everything from t-shirts to doughnuts. While the national support for the LGBTQ+ community is grand, the way capitalism’s moved in on the Pride Movement is a…

Not one of them is the smile on your man’s face (which is totally a benefit). Semen is made of a variety of things, most of them there to assist sperm on its long, dangerous journey to fertilize the ever-elusive egg. But the stuff in spunk doesn’t just help the…